Psychotherapy — How is it possible?
When people apply to psychiatrists, they are mostly concerned about being judged, embarrassed, stigmatized and not being able to benefit. At the same time, there are many who think that the psychiatrists do not deal with psychotherapy and that they only prescribe medicine without dealing with the patient’s problems in detail. Besides they may be afraid that the therapist will give them advices, make decisions for them about their life or force them into a change they don’t want.
Many of us know that if we don’t express our thoughts and feelings about large and small factors that are hurting us, our personality structure will be damaged and make us to a certain extent ill. Many people have been traumatically shamed and felt they were not understood when expressing their negative feeling. A therapist who approaches his clients with love and compassion rather than criticizing and blaming people who have negative feelings, focuses on an understanding of the difficulty of the situation in which their clients fall and their vulnerabilities and psychic injuries. They also focus on associating previous psychological injuries with current complaints and to make them realize how automatic negative thoughts can effect behaviors. At the same time, this approach is internalized by clients and helps them not to blame themselves or others and to make sense of their lives in such a way that they take positive steps towards change.
Also before the psychotherapy process begins, some of the clients are most curious about when they will recover. However, for a real transformation in human spirituality and for a good mood, predicting when to heal is similar to prophecy. Psychotherapy is the metaphoric cooking of spirituality over low heat. Therefore, it requires time and patience. Increasing the fever in order to make the result more rapid brings about the risk of burning the spirituality. There is a need for time to understand and analyze what is the triggering and underlying cause. The resolution and clarification of the complex ones bring about spiritual well-being and transformation. However, focusing on the symptom alone and setting a limited time for cognitive work is limiting for both the client and the therapist. When there is no time limitation, the desired state of psychologic well-being and positive transformation can take place in a shorter period than expected.
Apart from a few psychiatric disorders with a syndromic and biological effect, drug therapy in most of the mental disorders is similar to give water wings to someone who wants to learn how to swim. Water wings do not teach swimming but can reduces swallowing the water. If the person discontinues the drug without performing the necessary cognitive and behavioral training, it may cause the disease to relapse. Its like throwing water wings without good swimming training and getting drown.in other words, in some cases the clients are supported by drug therapy to reduce the active and intense psychological symptoms and the methods of coping with the negative feelings should be acquired through the psychotherapy process.
We get hurt in relationships. And we, also, get better in relationships.
Finally, for me, a great part of the ability of a therapist to help a person feel better lies in the relationship and cooperation he creates with a loving and passionate attitude towards this person.
It takes a lot of courage to allow your life to be mirrored next to someone else. The psychotherapist was chosen and trusted by this courageous person. This is enough to make the psychotherapist feel privileged and to approach the client with love and compassion.